“Left or right?”
“Job or business?”
“Blackberry or iphone?”
“Grape juice or pineapple?”
“India or US?”
“Forgive or teach a lesson?”
“Black or Red?”
“Lie and make them happy or tell the truth and disappoint someone?”
I hate taking decisions. Actually its more about the kind of choices I am presented with than the actual ‘decision making‘ part. Why can’t you just ask me to decide between iphone4 and iphone5? ‘coz obviously i’d go for iphone5 (its a different matter that I cant afford it). Why can’t there be only left turns to take?
Human beings are difficult creatures. Extremely difficult to satisfy. You cannot live on just grape juice your whole life. If you start doing that, you’ll start hating it and crave for other choices. And when you have ten different bottles of juice staring at you, you cant decide which one to have. A bit of all maybe? Some practical souls would probably taste a few and then get the one that they liked the most. I, on the other hand, would have tasted all and not know which i liked the best.
Like I said, am not good at taking some decisions. Which is weird because most of the time I have a crystal clear idea about what i want. There were times when i had a dream about a particular shade of dress and hunted it down and bought it for myself. If only that happened with everything in life.
I think we are spoilt for choice. Which is both good and bad at the same time. Its great that we are exposed to new things and that we have such a great variety to choose from. Be it your career, or a hairstyle or clothes – the choices are abundant. The key is to not get overwhelmed by all of it, which of course is not at all easy. The first time that it hits you, the feeling of having endless possibilities – is all-consuming. Its easy to get carried away, to get confused, to live in a bubble of ecstasy. So here’s what i (try to) do to simplify any decision-making process –
1) Weigh the balance –
Every decision has its pros and cons. List them out, in your head or on the paper and see which out-weighs the other. If you are trying to decide between two people or two jobs just don’t leave the list lying around ok? Or else you are going to get dumped and fired respectively.
2) Left or Right? –
There are always more than two ways in which you can reach your destination or goal. If you are not entirely satisfied with one particular route, search for another. If you are not satisfied even then, lay the road and make your own path.
3) Rephrase the question –
Still unsure about what to do? Rephrase the question. Think about it from a different angle. Try writing it down (it works better). Force yourself to think of it differently so that its easier to come up with different solutions.
4) Listen to your instincts –
We evolved instincts for a reason – ‘coz they work really well. If your gut feeling tells you something, dont try to fight it.
5) Make the damn decision –
Are you deciding your career or what breakfast cereal to eat? Not all decisions are same or equal. So don’t waste precious time. You dont need to follow steps 1 – 5 every time you sit down for breakfast.
6) Pour in the concrete –
Just thinking it in your head doesn’t make the decision concrete. There is no end to analyzing and re-analyzing what you’ve decided. Stop thinking and go ahead with it. Once you actually start doing it you’ll feel much better and you can move on to other things.
Enough philosophy? That’s what I thought.
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